For today’s Mindful Monday episode I have a special guest (My Mom!)
and we discuss how to be more mindful in changing our perspective.
“I can’t wait until this life phase is over.”
“That traffic was awful this morning. It completely ruined my whole day.”
“I never seem to catch a break.”
“My life is always hard.”
Have you ever been around people who use these types of statements regularly or do you ever catch yourself uttering similar phrases?
I can honestly say I have never seen my mom live in a state of negativity longer then a few minutes. It got me thinking, how is she always able to have a positive perspective? She experiences negative life circumstances just like everyone else. What is she doing that others aren’t?
What Do Positive People Do?
I’ve noticed that people who are the most joyful throughout all life’s seasons do two things that most people don’t.
1. They focus on the positive by not dwelling on the negative.
People with a positive perspective validate that the negative happened and admit it isn’t enjoyable but they don’t give it more weight than it deserves. They are able to quickly move from negativity to positivity by shifting their perspective. Almost effortlessly it seems.
My mom has shown me that you should always follow up the negative statement with a but.
Let me explain.
- You’re running late to work, BUT…. “look! There’s a parking space right up front! If I hadn’t been running late that spot wouldn’t have been open!”
- We were supposed to go to the beach and we can’t because it’s raining, BUT…. “it’s ok, we need the rain because we’re in a drought. Besides, the rain is what makes our earth beautiful.”
- You lost your job. BUT… “This is the great! Now you can find a new job that is different and challenges you in exciting ways.”
For every negative a positive can be found if you try hard enough.
2. They appreciate the moment they’re in by constantly living in a posture of gratitude.
No matter what there is always something to be thankful for. Any time you are experiencing anxiety or stress if you start listing out the things you have to be thankful for you might notice the negativity begin to slip away.
Do you have a home? Shoes? Breath? There is ALWAYS something.
Shifting Your Mindset
Don’t feel bad if this isn’t your mindset. yet. It isn’t natural for me to live this way but being around my mom (and others like her) helps me to see things through a positive lens.
And if this is your strong suit, keep at it. We need more people like you. 🙂
Do you have any examples to share when you were able to change your perspective in a negative situation? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments!
From my home sweet home to yours,
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